JONGSON PARK

Competition. The goal to win. “Winners” and “Losers”. Virtually everything we do is based in a competition. Grades, A’s, B’s, C’s, D’s and F’s used to rank and separate the ones who achieve and those that aren’t making the curve. Applying to schools, applying to jobs, applying to anything, achievement in sports, arts, even cooking is a competition, measuring and judging merit, ability, achievement. Competition frames one of our most primal instincts, “survival of the fittest”. Finding that talent, that thing you’re good at and excelling at it, to be better, be valued, gain relevance and importance.

But where does that leave those that aren’t able to function in this framework. Those that found themselves on the “losing” end, one too many times, to believe they can ever be a “winner”. To be told they’ll “never amount to anything”. Never being exposed to other definitions of opportunity, ability and “success”. Being forced to assimilate and comply into the narrow path of “success” defined by others or a system, they know is not for them or not what they want to do.

It may look like laziness, lack of motivation, indecisiveness, no drive or ambition. This social competitive framework is not conducive for people like that. It’s difficult, many get left behind, “fall through the cracks”. But as much as the competition creates gaps and a section of population under the curve, competition is the basis that has pushed technology, advances in medicine and health and modern conveniences forward.

Competition is an innate primal instinct. I don’t think it can be eliminated for the benefit of trying to establish humanitarian equilibrium. It would be trying to remove a survival instinct as primal as finding shelter and safety. I think we would all want the top-performing doctors treating our loved-ones in an important life-saving surgery. So where can those that don’t assimilate into the competitive framework find solace, find refuge, perseverance and value. Are they just destined to be left behind be crushed under the weight of the ambitious and ultra-competitive.

Is there a place for us? I think first is to accept that the competitive framework is what it is, it exists, it has its place in nature and has been survival instinct that has kept us alive as a species. Without having to fight it or trying to change it but learn how to operate within it, find our value in it, being stronger under the weight of the competitive mass and not be crushed by it.

If you don’t value being outshining than the person next to you, feeling good that you’ve beat someone, or driven by ambition and working harder to “win”, where it’s just enough to be better than those around you. Then find value in the work, find satisfaction in the process, loving the details, the art of mastery. Without having to be “better” than others, having to beat them out. Know that skill and mastery are still valued, even in a society where competition runs the world and “only the winners reap all the rewards”. There are rewards for the art of mastery, craftsmanship, artistry, people who love what they do. It is a fortified mindset, an adopted mentality, it’s not something we’re taught or valued, it’s the long-route, long-suffering, that must endure but can flourish and be an inspiration and ideal in a society obsessed with competition and finding the ultra-winners.

It’s a privilege to be able to grow and mature develop at your own pace but what if life is thrust upon you, a loss, a tragedy, something completely out of your control. Where you’re thrown into a situation where you’re left to either sink or swim, what if you can’t keep up with the pace, and you fall through the cracks, no one there to help you, left to figure it out for yourself, ending in two possible outcomes: endure and persevere or unable to survive.

Unfortunately, most people don’t care, that is most people have their own lives, responsibilities, stress that they’re taking care of. Most people just don’t have the capacity, time, wisdom, knowledge and resources to help in the very individualized and involved way that’s necessary. There are those saints and angels out there, but they are so few and so rare. It’s just not something that we can reliably depend on to be there for us in our most desperate time of need.

But at the lowest of lows, we see and hear stories of the human spirit, how people are able to persevere dire circumstances and get themselves out, while many others that can’t. What’s the difference? Were they smarter? More skilled? Lucky? Better abilities? I don’t think so. I think there are many different people with many different abilities, resources and potential that end up scattered all over the map.

Maybe one difference is as simple as a belief that things will get better. But how do you use that belief in reality?

Maybe we can try to see things from the sky, through a bird but also seeing things from the ground, through a turtle. From a bird’s eye-view, life can be seen as a path, the journey as a whole. Then on the ground, through the turtle, we can take each day as just a day, not a defining, fatalistic instance. Each day is just a trajectory. Don’t judge yourself in the here and now, see yourself through life in its entirety as a whole.