Most people are more comfortable interacting with each other’s facade, the pretense everyone has built up in order to hide their insecurities, vulnerabilities, fears and “weaknesses”.
They’re most comfortable making small talk, talking so much but saying nothing. Nothing of significance, nothing personal. They’re in the same space but not connected. Making forgettable conversation.
But get them around someone who wears their heart on their sleeve, who isn’t afraid to be themselves or even be vulnerable, someone who sees through the pretense, says what’s on their mind. They get super uncomfortable, cause they know they’re being seen through, they’re pretense, the facade they’re trying to uphold is as transparent as a clear, glass window. They’d rather interact with someone who relates on that surface level.
Because most people are scared of their own selves, afraid of how people will judge them, because they haven’t come to accept, embrace, love and have grace with themselves. So they think how can anyone else accept them?
But instead of learning how to create deeper more meaningful connections we are creating more substrates between people and connections and calling that a way to connect better. Filters. Avatars. Social Media. Meta. Facade. Persona.