Does pride get in the way of asking for help? Cause we think we don’t need it or we don’t deserve it? If we’re thinking about asking for help, doesn’t that kind of mean we’re in some position of needing it. And “deserving” help seems to go against the point of helping someone. But what if we feel like we’re entitled to help or that someone should be obligated to give help. That seems like an unhealthy perspective too, that might breed resentment, bitterness, a lack of empowerment of your decisions and actions a state of inaction waiting for someone to lend you a hand.
Both seem to be unideal attitudes. But both seem to be interacting with some form of the Ego in dealing with the unequal positions of power, one needing help from someone with the means to give it. Maybe that’s really the issue, getting or needing help is like a form of judgment, needing help is like admitting you’re not good enough, you failed or made mistakes. So the Ego’s logic system, one system says not taking the help or resisting it is not admitting you failed. The other system is if believing you’re entitled to help or somehow it’s a right to be given help, it’s a way to put the judgment on the person that is in the position of giving the help. Both are positions of pride and the Ego at play, and both don’t seem very helpful reconciling within and without.
I think the only expectation and requirement you can control is yourself. It’s futile to hold your breath until someone might do what you want them to do. Ask for help if you need it, don’t expect them to help if they don’t. So help is a miracle if we can get it. Receive it with gratitude and humility. But use the help so that one day you can be in a position to give the help you once received.