Don’t be defined by the “wins” the “losses”. It shouldn’t be a pursuit of being better than the person next to you. Don’t feel less than someone who is “better” at something than you. All those things are fear-based.
Identity isn’t in the competition, winning or losing. It should be the pursuit of mastery, the artistry of craftsmanship that should be the fulfillment and the reward in itself.
Being able to help and make the people around you better, improve and progress is exponentially better and more fruitful than only bettering yourself. But competition is the lowest common denominator that is able to engage a group in the forward pursuit, instead of the harder, more difficult method of teaching and learning a pathway toward progression, improvement and mastery.