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Emotion-less
Fear, the absence of Love.
Love, the absence of Fear.I’m curious, are emotions just different shades of Love and Fear? Can we characterize any emotion using either Love or Fear in the definition?
i.e…
Jealous – fear of being getting lesser attention, validation. Fear of not being as important compared to another person.
I’m sure the first initial reaction would be, “No way, human emotions are so complex and different, they can’t just be oversimplified like that.” Maybe, I don’t know. I’m just curious.
Okay maybe it’s not about redefining emotions, maybe Fear and Love are in a different taxonomy and hierarchy than emotions. Maybe it could be that the source of emotions like jealousy, anger, hate is a Fear based thought. Jealousy, anger, hate are just narratives we tell ourselves, with Fear being the narrator.
I’m also starting to think about Love differently too. Love is not just for “lovers” or for “falling in love” – not just defined through a romance, kinship or special relationship. I’m starting to think Love is being able to be in the presence with someone without reservation, defenses, pretense sharing the same presence, energy and “vibes”, a moment of empathy, compassion and understanding without fear, judgment or self-awareness.
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Re:invent
Don’t be afraid to reinvent yourself. Be bold. Be vulnerable. Step out of who you are.
Have that scary, uncomfortable internal dialogue. Where am I? Am I where I want to be? How did I get here? Is what I’m doing going to help me get to where I want to go?
By reinventing yourself, we go through a process of “moving on”. Not holding onto things we should let go. We learn not to define ourselves by not just our mistakes or “failures” but also the past wins and old successes. Everyday is a new day, requiring a new you.
By reinventing yourself, we give ourselves permission to be wrong. And it’s not the end of the world or your belief system doesn’t come crashing down. To not have to entrench yourself, be closed-minded and “die on the hill”. You can allow for new information to be pertinent and open, what you thought used to be “right” can just be a progression of gathering more information and experiences and just a landmark on the roadmap of learning.
By reinventing yourself, we can reprioritize what’s really important. We can ask ourselves, is this “thing” that I think is so important, that I identify with who I am, might not be exactly what I thought it was or is as important as I once thought. We can realign our priorities and what’s important when we let go of things we think make us who we are but really don’t.
We are a culmination of not just our experiences, but our learned experiences, cognitive patterns and processes. Some might view that as being limited by those things, locked into how we were raised, what we learned, our environment but in fact we can be empowered by them.
By reinventing yourself, we can adopt new mindsets, ideas, growth, development, progression, creativity, meet new people. New thoughts and patterns fire in different parts of our brain, bringing to life new abilities, capabilities, possibilities.
We must be the only species that is able to completely reinvent who we are, based on our environment and circumstances. The trajectory might not be going down a positive outcome but to have the capacity and decision-making ability to choose a different way, toward a different outcome contrary to what should happen to what we would like to happen.
Reinventing yourself is not easy, it requires work, boldness and vulnerability. The way an animal when changing its shell, is exposed and vulnerable but needs to do it to grow and get a bigger shell. Otherwise the shell will be too small and stifling, what once was useful becomes a hinderance. The way old beliefs and patterns can be limiting and keep us small and closed.
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Writing is…
Writing is like drawing a map, organizing my thoughts and experiences. Looking back to redraw the trails, landmarks, roads, terrain, places I want to remember and know how to get to, new surprising and compelling places that I may have never experienced without exploring. A map I can use when I feel lost, confused, turned around.
Writing is like medicine, when I feel stressed from thinking too much, when I want to feel discouraged, hurt, angry, sad. Writing is medicine for my soul.
Writing is like a microscope and satellite, it helps me focus down into something so fine and granular, see everything it’s made of. While at times it also helps me see things from a distance, like seeing the Earth from up in the sky, from a bird’s eye view. To see how things are connected, how things interact with each other, help identifying patterns and context.
Writing is a form of transmission, from what’s on the inside to the outer world.
Writing is an expression of the soul.
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Your talent and passion were meant to be shared…
“When you love something you want to share it with the world.”
Maybe the purest words and single greatest reason for sharing and generosity summed up beautifully.
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Creativity
It starts with an idea – it’s imaginary, elusive, intangible, theoretical. It’s a culmination of all our experiences, knowledge, intuition converging at a point, we’d call “inspiration”.
But it’s just an idea, just a thought, hypothetical, until we bring out into the world. Until then, it’s as valuable as having never existed.
Creation is the journey of the idea into the “real” world. We are its guide, protector, nurturer so that it can exist and thrive, be the hope, light and inspiration for others.
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1% Better Everyday
Kaizen. A Japanese concept meaning “change for the better” or “continuous improvement.”
I don’t know if there is a single source to credit the philosophy of 1% Better Everyday but the idea is captivating in its simplicity, in its contradiction to the go hard, get it now mindset.
It’s saying avoid the traps and pitfalls of the “extreme makeover” and “overnight success” mentality.
It’s a process for developing and fortifying strong, lasting habits.
It’s a mindset for growth, development and continuous, sustainable improvement.
It’s an attitude of humility and accepting development as a long-term, goal consisting of hard work and effort – not an easy, instant transformation and over-estimating our own capacity and ability.
It’s a way to take advantage of how our brain and habit formation works. Just 1% more allows for the new growth to become “old” habits, while taking on another 1% growth the next day.
1% can be anything, effort, time, speed, focus, intention, knowledge, skill, awareness, physical, mental, intellectual, emotional… pick any one to get 1% better at that day.
1% is compounding, it snowballs. Theoretically, the idea is that the 1% compounds everyday. That is 1% better everyday for a year, will end up being 37 times better.
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Now & Later
Be present in the moment.
Even just one step ahead is too far, trying to predict and anticipate.
And one step behind is thinking too much of the past.There is a time and place to evaluate and seek awareness for guidance but too much causes anxiety and imbalance.
Living in the present and in the moment, is being in sync with the here and now without echoes from the past and anxiety of what might be in the future.
Life is meant to live.