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I hate being different. I hate being the same.
Being different, a blessing and a curse. Sometimes it feels so lonely, isolating, like nobody understands. Sometimes I get envious of people that easily blend into groups, fit in, so easily accepted, like-minded, similar, enjoy the same things, think the same way.
Yes, everyone is different but when I look around at least the majority of people are able to identify with a group or have people around them that have a similar mindset. But then I just accept that I don’t think the same, I don’t see things the way most people do. And I just have to be okay with that.
Like wouldn’t that be so much easier, simpler than having to be so different. It’s awkward for other people and it’s uncomfortable for me, making others feel that way. And then I have to change how I act so that they don’t feel awkward, then I don’t feel like myself and that can become more awkward or fake. But at least I’m learning more how to just be me but also connecting in a way that at least isn’t so uncomfortable or awkward. Maybe I’m just learning how to make others feel at ease at accepting that I’m different? Or maybe I’m just learning how to be more okay with being different – not judging myself for being different — knowing that I’m different but everyone’s different, so that’s not special or unique in anyway.
And being different just means we’re the same.
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What do you do when you realize your dreams are dead?
How do you cope, when you realize you couldn’t/didn’t do what you needed to do… or is the real question…
Do dreams ever really ever die?
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Write.Know
Most will say write to tell your story. I say write to know your story.
We’re living in our story, seems obvious we should know it, but do we know it?
Can you tell it in a word, phrase, sentence, paragraph, page, book…
Write to seek.
Write to discover.
Write to unpack.
Write to understand.
Write to process.
Write to know.
Write to contextualize.
Write to be.
Write to share.
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Trapped in a bubble
Think about this for a second, just a split second. How much are you living in other people’s perception of you? How many of your decisions and what you do is based on who they think you are – what you can and can’t do. Do you live down to their expectations or are you able to surpass their expectations, surprising them, surprising yourself.
We probably like to think we’re not trapped by such influences or external pressures, but what things have you wanted to try but didn’t because you were afraid of what other’s might think if you “fail” or are “not good” at it. Or how about this, do you act one way with one set of friends and differently in another. Or do you have your filter on high, because you’re afraid of how you’ll be judged by what you say.
Of course, we need some conformity to be able to get along, it’s also a practice of empathy and understanding, but also we need to reach within to reach out, to be ourselves, embrace ourselves, so that we can be embraced by others. The “fearless” version of ourselves and not a forced fearless version, i.e. ignoring or suppressing fear, but being in a state of the absence of fear.
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Growth Mindset in degrees
I think most people would like to think they have a growth mindset or maybe there are those that embrace and are proud they have a fixed mindset. But growth mindset seems to be the more desirable of the two, it a non-verbal admission to not knowing everything and that there’s room to learn and grow. Growth mindset is curiosity. It’s a desire to grow and develop. It’s humility and a state of being open. It’s not being defensive. It’s not comparing or judging yourself. It’s not underestimating or overestimating your own abilities or others.
Where I think people have a hard time gauging whether they are in a growth mindset or not is that going between growth mindset to fixed mindset happens in degrees, it’s not binary, either/or. Someone could have a growth mindset in this topic or area in their life and fixed mindset in other parts of their life. For example, growth mindset at school but fixed mindset in family life or vis versa. Or even fixed mindset in the same area but in different interactions. For example, someone can have a growth mindset when it comes to talking about technology at work but then start to have a fixed mindset when someone is giving them feedback or criticism about their own work. And all these happen to degrees as well, right. We can have stronger or weaker mindsets in one way or another.
So even though we might think we have a growth mindset because we have growth mindsets in certain parts of who we are and what we do, we might ignore places where we have fixed mindsets. The goal is to try and have growth mindsets in more of the things we do, part of that process is unblock the things that are stopping us from having a growth mindset in those different parts.
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Share Time
Who you are becomes an abundance when you seek to know what you love, your passion is what overflows. You just want to share what you love.
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First Principles of Spriint Fit – Top Ten
- Never work through pain – heat and discomfort is okay but not sharp pain
- Form above everything – stop the movement when you cannot maintain your good and proper form
- Increase your end range positions – mobility + flexibility
- Creases – if there was only one thing to keep in mind about biomechanics
- Plyo-ability – viscoelasticity, it’s a weird word
- Stretch Release – it’s not just about turning on and activating your muscles, it’s also turning off and deactivating the other side.
- Isolation – total mind body connection, activating that singular muscle without turning on the surrounding muscles.
- Stability and Balance – It’s not just about the core, total body rigidity.
- Feet and Ankle Strength – this is the weakest link in the ground force producing chain
- Activating your posterior Chain – the second weakest link in the kinetic chain