We judge ourselves as if we’re supposed to be the finished product. As if out of the womb, we’re supposed to already be the “perfected”, ideal, fully-develop version of ourselves.
We would never judge a child for not being able to write to the level of a college student or professional writer. But somehow when we become an adult it’s open season on how critical we can be about ourselves. Everything is a work in progress.
Isn’t that a fixed-mindset versus a growth-mindset. If we’re done developing, growing, improving than I suppose we can simply judge ourselves based on where we’re at, as in “I guess that’s all there is” “this is as good as it’s gonna get”. But a growth-mindset leaves room for more… and this moment that we’re in is simply a part of the whole. We can’t accurately judge ourselves based on where we’re at, because it only paints such a small part of the picture.