Maybe it’s like a sibling or child watching their parent’s argue. But they’re both right, both wrong, sometimes even saying the same thing but just coming from a different place.
I don’t necessarily agree with every position, but I can see given someone’s experiences, life, emotions, highs and lows, adversity, triumphs, sadness, happiness, darkest moments, fears, desires how someone could come to think what they do. I just think we’re more connected than we think we are. I think we are the best of who we are but maybe also the converse of that might be true too?
I think some conflict and confrontation is useful, necessary even. These might be one of things I can takeaway or learn to develop. When and how to use conflict and confrontation as a friction point for balance and harmony? Maybe there’s a way to do this without the walls and defensiveness to go up right away when conflict and confrontation arises. Or maybe the point isn’t for walls to come down and find common ground but to make a stand and show conviction to others that might not have the voice.
A thought or persuasion might be lifelong or it might just be a moment in someone’s life. We’re always changing, growing, not a blip on timeline but a culmination of our journey not just from what was but also what is yet to come.
I’ve been on the other side of positions, discussions, debates, arguments. Done with the expectation of wanting to change the other person’s mind or wanting to be right. But as I’ve learned being curious, earnestly wanting to understand what the other person is thinking, feeling or coming from, seems to put us in a better place then when we started after the conversation.