Debating, arguing seems to be the least effective way to change people’s minds or even get other people understand or even acknowledge your point. Either side is so entrenched in their position. Their only objective is to win. Either side’s Ego, can’t be made to look stupid, be wrong, give the other person any leverage – even if at some point they realized they were wrong.
What if the goal wasn’t to win or change the other person’s mind. What if the goal was to listen, to understand what the other person is saying, where they’re coming from. What if we used humility instead of pride to argue and be right.